My husband and I met in the December of 2006 and we got married the following December. The first few years of our marriage were hard and I mean really hard. I think it was a combination of factors from being from totally different cultures and having different expectations, plus we spent a number of months apart due to complications in the immigration process.
Once we felt like we were back on steady ground we started actively pursuing growing our family. I have wanted to be a mum for as long as I can remember and as we already knew there were some fertility issues present we decided to get connected with a fertility doctor right away to discuss our options.
During our second fertility treatment, we discovered that we were pregnant with twins and we were over the moon. I had always wanted twins and couldn’t believe it was actually happening. Sadly at 10 weeks, we found out that one of the babies had passed away and then we discovered just a week later that we had also lost the other baby. After this, we met with our fertility doctor and he explained that a loss like ours was very rare and he honestly had no explanation. We left feeling dishearten and confused but after some time praying and thinking we chose to stop fertility treatments. It was emotionally and physically exhausting do all those treatments and we really felt like adoption would be the way we would grow our family.
Then just a few months later we found out I was pregnant again and this time with no fertility treatments but at 26 1/2 weeks I developed HELLP syndrome and they had to deliver our son, Oliver Philip Beresic. He was born on October 27, 2014. He was tiny but he fought so hard. Sadly on November 3 he passed away.
After that we decided that we would pursue adoption and almost a year to the day that Oliver was born, our son Jackson was born. The whole process of Jackson’s adoption was amazing and we love his birth mother so much. She is such an incredibly brave woman and we are eternally grateful that she gave us such an unbelievable gift.
We had always wanted more kids but knew the likelihood of that was not very high as adoption is expensive and can be a very long process. Then last Fall through a miraculous series of events we got connected with another birth mom and on January 9, 2017, our daughter Bethany was born. Bethany’s birth mom is an inspiring young woman who also made a hard and very brave decision. We love her and are so thankful for her and for the gift that she gave us.
The last ten years have been really hard and really amazing all at the same time. This blog is just a place to continue to process all that has happened and hopefully help some other people along the way. I hope you will join me on this journey.